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No Good Life Was Built on Excuses

My apologies. I have been back from California for almost an entire week but between jet lag and a nasty cold, I just haven’t been able to get my head on straight to finish any writing. With three drafts underway – my weekly good reads, a review of the cool things I learned at the Titleist Performance Institute and World Golf Fitness Summit and a technique review piece, I’ve put them all aside today to share some very sad news that has left me shaken.

Many moons ago, I left the safety and comfort of living at home for the adventures of doing my MBA at McGill University in Montreal, Canada. While I was young (in hindsight wayyyyy too young) to be taking an advanced degree usually reserved for people with more than 5 years of solid work experience, I met a group of amazing friends in similar situations – all young, living away from home, looking to jump start a career with an MBA. We became each other’s support system and extended family. Over our two year degree and for many more afterwards, we studied, celebrated and travelled together. Even though life has taken us in vastly different places and to remote corners of the world, we continue to stay in touch with visits, email and even tried to organize a reunion a few years ago. So it was a huge shock that we learned earlier this year that one of our group, a very handsome, fit, smart and funny guy was stricken with cancer. Over the months that followed, he kept us in the loop with regular updates on his life and treatments. Just six weeks ago we exchanged emails about my crossing the pond for a visit since Emirates now has a direct flight to Boston, where he moved with his expecting wife and daughter after his diagnosis. I didn’t think anything of it when no update came in October. Perhaps that’s why I feel so very sad – head too far up my own ass to see anything was amiss. But two things happened today. First, I met with a potential client who took close to 45 minutes telling me why she really didn’t have time to exercise and that I’d have to be available for her to make it work. Then I hear that my friend has in fact taken a turn for the worse and has been given about a month.

Now I’m not trying to be a downer here, even though I feel very down at the moment. I’m simply wanting to underline that our health is a GIFT. We need to cherish it, protect it and defend it. Eating well and exercise all do that. Excuses simply allow your status quo to continue. Nothing was ever created with an excuse. If it is important – and your health should be important – then DO IT. Even if it’s not important to you (why?) what about the influence you have on your children and loved ones? Don’t you want them to have fighting chance to stay healthier? Stop making excuses. Start finding reasons. Honor the gift of your health. So for my friend who I can only remember as being strong, athletic, fit and healthy and who would give anything for more time with his family, I was sorely tempted to tell this potential client just where she could take her busy schedule. But then it occurred to me. Maybe she was sent to me as a test. Or as a gift. As an opportunity to help someone discover inner strength to make tough tradeoff choice. And to embrace fitness for the gifts that it can bring her. I’ll take that challenge. For you AC. And for me.